Co-Parenting Tips for the Holiday Season | High Swartz LLP – JDSupra – JD Supra | Gmx Pharm

Follow these co-parenting tips for single parents looking for a stress-free summer.

I developed this post to help parents and their family advocates prepare for the many legal complications of co-parenting that summer could bring. Without the structure of the school, even the tightest of co-parenting plans face challenges.

Whether or not a decoupling was friendly, it takes a collaborative effort to figure out what works for each couple to successfully co-parent. While every situation is different and there is no one recipe to guarantee positive family outcomes, this is practical advice from our family law law firm for dealing with the legal aspects of these common issues.

1) Communication is key

Organizing a holiday is often a task that leads to the fact that most people need a holiday! But for separated, divorced, or single parents, planning a vacation for themselves and their children can be grueling.

Typically, single parents have a custody agreement that serves as a parenting plan. However, the agreement may have been vague about the holiday. Or the parents may not have finalized their agreements yet.

Unfortunately, co-parenting issues that arise from vacations usually arise at the last minute, after the short vacation has been planned but communicated to the other parent for the first time.

2) The five W’s of co-parenting

To provide some tips for co-parenting, we’ve linked vacation planning to these well-known “Five W’s”:


When planning vacations, parents need to communicate early and often. Communication helps avoid last-minute disputes about changes. Some families start this process as early as March.

While communication between parents is crucial, children should be left out of the organization. The kids don’t need to know WHO made special requests, WHO made unnecessary denials, or WHO spent more money. They just need to know that their parents worked hard for them to enjoy their summers.


All holiday terms and schedules should be agreed upon and agreed upon put down in writing as soon as possible to avoid conflicts. Parents should also share detailed holiday itineraries, or essentially, WHAT happens on the trip. Provision must be made for you to provide the absent parent with full details of accommodation, travel times and activities so that they are comfortable.

When considering what type of leave to take, each parent should try to put themselves in the other’s shoes. If someone were dissatisfied with a particular activity or accommodation, they should not do anything similar when it is their turn for a trip.

Quick tip: Cost is another important consideration when choosing a vacation. Parents need to be financially realistic when it comes to vacation choices. Parents may have half the resources they had before the split and regardless of what is common for the children or what the other parent can afford, they must choose a vacation that is within their means.

Taking finances into account is also a motivator to keep vacation planning peaceful — if parents disagree, they can spend significant funds paying family lawyers or mediators.


Family lawyers have the opportunity to prevent disputes by setting clear framework conditions parent plan or Custody Agreement.

Every family is different, and every divorce has its own unique point on the amicable to nasty scale. Therefore, each plan should be individual but clear to avoid possible confusion later.

Some plans can be very specific IF which data each parent receives, e.g. B. Mom gets the third week of June and Dad gets the third week of July. Others can only specify that each parent gets one week, and the dates must be completed and communicated by a specific date.

Quick tip: Parents should do their best to stick to the schedule. However, if they wish to deviate, or for some reason have not outlined the plan, respectful conversations should begin as soon as possible.


Everyone likes to dream WHERE You can go on your next vacation. But for divorced and single parents, it’s important to be informed before your mind wanders.

If you have the means to do so Travel abroad on vacationThere are special rules for the passport of children of divorce. Both parents must agree before a passport is used for a child under the age of 16, unless one parent has been granted sole custody – in which case only the signature of the parent having custody is required. It is possible to get a passport without the signature of both parents, but only for the child’s health or a special family circumstance – no vacation.

Quick tip: Parents who are unable to obtain support from their ex-spouse should contact a family law attorney. The most common course of action is to apply to the court to have the ex sign the application. Parents, on the other hand, should also contact their family attorney after refusing to sign. It is best if you communicate fears of kidnapping to family lawyers and the court.


Parents should be considerate, thoughtful, and respectful of their children’s feelings. Family advocates should also have the same children-first mentality to guide families towards the best possible outcomes.

Quick tip: When planning a vacation gets stressful, the number one priority is to remember the reason for the vacation. Holidays should bring families closer together – not further apart!

3) The best co-parenting tip!

The key to successful co-parenting is separating the personal relationship with your ex from co-parenting. Think of your relationship with your ex as new. Focus on the well-being of your children, not one of you.

Your marriage may be over, but your family is not. Therefore, it is important to act in your children’s best interests – always put their needs ahead of yours.

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